How To Deal With Rejection

How To Deal With Rejection

Getting rejected can be a very unpleasant event. That’s why many of us have developed a fear of rejection, and that fear is holding us back in life. Because we fear being rejected, we become inactive and begin to procrastinate. That’s why you need to learn how to deal with rejection.

First of all you need to realize that by getting rejected you don’t really lose anything. On the other hand you actually lose a lot if you do nothing and procrastinate just because you are afraid of being rejected. Just think for a moment, how could your life be different if you weren’t afraid of rejection and you actually did whatever you were afraid of?

Don’t you think that you could have achieved so much more? You could have gained so much more experience and could live a much different life.

Whenever you start to procrastinate because of your fear or rejection, remember that you can only gain with this experience.

Let’s say for example, that you are afraid of asking your boss for a raise, because you fear that you could get rejected. Well, if you do nothing about it, you won’t get a raise. So you lose. On the other hand if you actually do something about it, you can get a positive or a negative answer. In worst case you are at the same place as if you didn’t do anything, but there is actually a great chance that you do get a raise.

So if you act, you can only gain. Remember that. Even if you get rejected, you have still learnt something from that experience. So in the end you are actually richer for that one experience and this can actually help you build up your self-esteem.

What other people say to you doesn’t affect your self-esteem!

In reality it’s you who affects your self-esteem. Only you have the power to feel good about yourself or to feel bad.

It’s what you say to yourself after someone has insulted you, that affects your self worth. It’s you who gives meaning to the conversation.

You can easily see an insult from two very different points of view.

For example, you could get insulted and very unhappy if someone told you something that you don’t like. But you could easily just smile and think to yourself that this person has low self esteem if he or she needs to insult other people in order to feel good.

See, these are two completely different points of view and it’s your decision how you will react.

How to deal with rejection when you have a tendency to generalize?

The problem with generalizing is that we generalize everything. If you get rejected a few times, you start to believe that everyone rejects you. And this kind of generalization is very bad for your self confidence.

You need to realize that you have family and friends that don’t reject you. We all have, and if you believe that you don’t have any friends, you really need to change your point of view.

I’m sure that you had friends at some time and if you don’t have any friends in your life right now, you’ve probably lost them because you’ve stopped hanging out with them.

Of course, friends come and go, so don’t worry. You can always get new friends. If you feel anxious just by thinking about talking to strange people, you might have social anxiety. If you suffer from social anxiety, you can watch the video on how to overcome it. Just put your email in the form on the right and I’ll send you the video for free.

Now, a good way to find new friends is to attend a social anxiety support group. They provide a safe environment for people with social anxiety, where you can meet other people that will help you out.

Overcoming rejection by changing focus

Whenever we get rejected, we immediately focus on the negative. We start thinking about the rejection and how bad the situation is. We become embarrassed and after a few rejections we begin to avoid situations that could potentially lead to rejection.

That’s how you can develop social anxiety.

So change your focus to something positive whenever you get rejected. You can focus on the learning. I’m sure you can learn a lot from every rejection. You can learn how not to do it next time, so you can do it differently next time.

Just stay positive.

Also keep in mind, that if you got rejected by someone, it doesn’t mean that you’ll get rejected by everyone else. There are plenty of opportunities for you out there.

How to deal with rejection, so that you won’t feel rejected?

You need to change your response to rejection. If you always become upset or even depressed after getting rejected, you need to change your response.

Try looking at rejection from a different point of view. Try to learn something from it.

Welcome rejection in your life! This might sound harsh to you, but it’s a great way to learn how to deal with rejection. You’ll see that it will only make you stronger.

At first it’s going to be uncomfortable, but in order to grow you’ve got to be a little uncomfortable. You need to get out of your comfort zone once in a while.

You’ll see that everything becomes more comfortable after a while and so does rejection. Learning to talk wasn’t easy. In fact it was uncomfortable, but you did it and now you can talk.

Everything was uncomfortable at first but you managed to get through it and it’s the same with rejection.

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    1. Dierdre
      3 years ago

      Hey! Thanks for investing your time and effort to cover this topic. I had to deal with quite a few rejections lately and it really got under my skin. I’m glad that I found your site. I’ll try to follow your advice.

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      Andrej Sosic Reply:

      Hey Dierdre. I’m glad that I could help :-)

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    2. Greg
      3 years ago

      Great post! I have always struggled with rejection. Whenever I get rejected I get upset and i feel like a loser. This post was really informative and I will try to follow your suggestions. Keep posting good material.

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      Andrej Sosic Reply:

      Yeah rejection can really bring you down. I hope you can follow my tips and feel better about yourself.

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    3. Bundy
      3 years ago

      I have read and re-read this article 3 times. I can’t believe how right you are. Thanks you.

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    4. AyesThatsme
      3 years ago

      [..YouTube..] good advice

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    5. entteryouur namee
      3 years ago

      [..YouTube..] good advice

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    6. Drew
      3 years ago

      Thank’s tommorow i’m going to pick up the phone and make sure i call jessie for the job! Im not gonna be afraid I’m gonna follow through! Hopefully i do follow through thanks though

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    7. XAnarhiaX
      2 years ago

      [..YouTube..] thank for the advice.

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    8. Radu Dascaliuc
      2 years ago

      [..YouTube..] thank for the advice.

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    9. Veronica
      2 years ago

      I’ve been reading articles about similar subjects and yours added new perspective and ideas to subject. A few light bulbs when off as I was reading it. I almost thought I was silly for researching to take help heal my shortcomings but it was good to hear that I am not the only one who has. I have always had some problems with shyness and still have some confidence issues. A more recent experience had caused me to slide down hill so now I am working on overcoming it so I can live life as I should.

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      Andrej Sosic Reply:

      Hi Veronica, thanks for your comment. I’m really glad that you find the info useful. I hope you can find the confidence you need.

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    10. Marie
      2 years ago

      I was recently rejected because apparently I am not studying subject as he is. I seriously thought he liked me because he kept talking about about relationships and he kept studying me like a lab mouse. So I thought, “Why not!” Stepped outside my comfort zone and turned out he wasn’t interested in me and liked another woman who wasn’t interested in him.

      Like you, I have social anxiety, and I started to wonder if there’s something wrong with me. Was it the lack of experience on my part? And somehow the wheels in my brain just kept on turning and turning a rejection into a bigger thing than it really was… But you’re right. It’s me who’s making it so personal and making myself feel bad. I’m quite the pessimist, but I am going to stay as positive as possible! :)

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      Andrej Sosic Reply:

      Hi Marie. There’s nothing wrong with you. We don’t always get what we want and more often than not this is actually good for us. You see, now you have a chance to meet someone better. :-)
      Stay positive,
      Andrej

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    11. Alvera
      2 years ago

      Hello my name is Alvera,

      I have been rejected in many ways from my youth until now being in my 40′s.
      My sister did not speak to me – suffered a mental breakdown
      I was called names by people close to me
      People did not want to associate with me
      People blamed me for things I had not done, therefore i felt i did not fit in anywhere. Something wrong with me
      My dad passed away coming up 3 yrs i was hurting had no one to talk to and express my feelings
      I was not able to accomplish my education, this i felt upset about
      I started to learn to dtive over 20yrs later have not accomplished this
      I don’t have any friends of my age group.
      I am married.
      I lost my own identity along the way. I basically gave up on myself
      Now I think there is something wrong with me due to the actions of others and I feel alone.
      I need to overcome rejection so that I will have a happy, confident life.

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      Andrej Sosic Reply:

      Hi Alvera. It looks like you had a really tough life and yet you got married along the way. I hope that you can now start to build up your new identity and live a happier life. Hopefully, your husband can help you along the way.

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    12. Lolita Hope
      2 years ago

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    13. lrebelo100
      2 years ago

      [..YouTube..] good vid and great advice. another problem though is that sometimes a person can be made to experience either mostly rejection or nothing but rejection. others can at times make a person feel as if they’re weird and that there is no hope for them.

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    14. shebbyspore
      1 year ago

      [..YouTube..] Very helpful :D

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    15. Brandon Garrett
      1 year ago

      [..YouTube..] Wow..

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    16. brandonismbg
      1 year ago

      [..YouTube..] Wow..

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    17. Fany Dara
      1 year ago

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    18. Eva Arni
      11 months ago

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    19. bluetraffic100
      8 months ago

      [..YouTube..] His voice. I can’t.

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